November 04, 2015

7 Ways We Promote Rape Without Realizing It

Rape Culture Preen

Model-slash-actress Kat Alano wants to end this country’s prevalent rape culture. And so should you.

Last year in October, she founded, an online platform where she encouraged healthy and honest conversations about rape. But she doesn’t want to keep the discussion within the small fraction that’s directly involved.

“We need to start talking about rape,” she says, imploring the public to join the discourse she started, “because it happens.”

How do we start, then? Well, let’s just say we need to know how it spreads first. Kat lets us in on a few ways rape culture shows up in our everyday habits.   
#1 When we hear rape jokes and shrug them off
Good job, Philippines, we condemned Vice Ganda when he made that rape joke two years ago. But have we been consistent?

 Imagine this: A colleague comes to work, her hair disheveled and clothes unkempt. Her collars are unbuttoned, and lipstick in disarray—signs that she may have had a rough morning commute. Our first instinct usually, sadly, compels us to ask: “What happened to you? Have you been raped or something?” with matching giggles at our #fail humor.
The simplest jokes like these normalize rape, to the point of making this grave issue seem lighter than it should be. 
#2 When we support celebrities who are rapists

Oh, Vhong Navarro. No matter how smoothly you dance, the endless accusations against you can’t cover the history you might have. And we say “might” because the court has freed you from your possible crimes, and the public supports you for your good looks.
If you believe in Vhong, at least remember how we forgave Vic Sotto and his cohorts before. Remember Pepsi Paloma? Well, you should.
Kat, a celebrity in her own right, believes that “we’ve created a safe haven for people to get away with bad behavior.” She slams our image-obsessed culture, alluding to the fact that she was attacked by a well-known celeb: “As long as [the accused] looks good, as long as they a very convincing lie, we’re content to look the other way.”
#3 When we applaud men for having sex, and shame women for it
We allow dudes to bed as many women as they want, while we insist women to remain chaste or pakipot about it. The macho sex machine gets patted on the back for their sexcapades, while the “exploits” are deemed dirty and tainted. Who wins? Obviously not the latter.
Meme Preen
When we forgive men for these one-sided pursuits and slut-shame the women in this sexpedition, it’s like saying sexual conquests matter more than mutual, mature consent.
#4 When we don’t educate others properly about rape
Let’s talk about education—or the lack of it. In a country that just recently legalized sex education—we have a lot of catching up to do, as observed by Kat herself.


Did your teacher once tell you that rape doesn’t have to be violent, but can be coercive? Did your reading materials show that rape doesn’t require penetration, but can involve the external touching of genitals? Doubt it. 
“We’re showing [others] how to [have sex],” Kat says, “but we’re not talking about it.
For all our information, rape is “unlawful sexual activity” made “against the will of a person.” Now think about all the times we’ve watched forceful scenes—film, porn, or whatnot—and shrugged them off as “rough lovemaking.” Or those times people insist that rape is forcing sex on females, and all we did was stay silent.
#5 When we don’t listen to those who cry rape
Remember how most people called Kat a fame whore for crying out rape against a certain celebrity. (Clue: His name rhymes with wrong.) Yup, this helps, too.
We promote rape when we shun the victims. Believe us—and her—when we say they’re real. In case you missed it, one woman is raped every 72 minutes in this country. The survivors’ own experiences are hardly lies as much as they are publicity stints. (See: Bill Cosby’s case.)
Amid the trauma of going public about her rape, Kat remembers how her aunt told her to have some dignity and quit talking about it already. “That’s all you’ll be known for,” her aunt said, embarrassed for Kat. 
Now, haven’t we heard that many times before? God forbid we said it, too. 
#6 When our very own justice system has outdated views on rape
This is the saddest of all: The Philippine courts are in themselves ill-equipped to handle rape cases. Why? Because apparently, they still believe that rape is something people “ask for.”
When we have victims seek justice in a country that doesn’t even understand rape, Kat believes it’s like “sending victims to slaughter.” She herself has publicly spoken to government officials about her own assailant, and received little reassurance that he would be arrested.
“There are rapists not being arrested, and we say we don’t have rape culture?” Kat asks incredulously, citing later of the fact that only three percent of rape cases go to trial and end with the imprisonment of the accused.
#7 When we shame victims instead of perpetrators
Ralph Catedral, a Filipino lawyer who has represented many rape survivors in court, says that part of the reason the Philippines contributes to the small conviction rate is because “there’s still a social stigma attached to being a rape survivor.”
This stigma prevents them from testifying, and weakens the prosecution’s case—at least in the eyes of our justice system. 
There are a host of other ways rape culture has its grip on our society. But before we go all vigilante, we must first strive for awareness. And that could be as simple as reflecting on how we as individuals may be participating in rape culture, and then correcting it. is a place where you can engage in healthy conversations about sex and rape, and support survivors in the community. For more information, visit their website
Art by Dorothy Guya
Filed Under:, government, Kat Alano, Pepsi Paloma, politics, pop culture, Preen,, Ralph Catedral, rape, rape culture, showbiz, Vhong Navarro, Vic Sotto, women

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